Following instructions vs Fostering creativity

Our kids have a tough time following instructions. Whether getting ready for bed, finishing up homework or just keeping the place tidy - it's just not in their DNA to comply with provided rules.
The air is thin at the top of the pyramid!

Of course, genes and double-helix strands have nothing to do with it - instead, it is the education system which has taught them to question everything, exert their independent personality and annoy their parents.

Teenagers especially, just cannot, will not, are incapable of, refuse to, have no inclination to, follow simple instructions. Just a decade earlier, they were super eager to show off their newfound cognitive powers, always waiting for commands and ever ready to please - which is hardly the case anymore. Which is strange: a larger and more complex brain capacity results in lower performance and an inability to decipher and interpret commands. That's where Artificial Intelligence would come in very handy.

I guess you could go army style using mechanisms of carrots and sticks, but wouldn't that hamper the creativity and new economy approach of asking, pushing and intimidating? Would constant punishment result in the creation of robots and non-thinking citizens that belong to the industrial revolution? I need to ask Google what to do.