Tips for parents: Why do we have children?
More and more married couples these days are opting to not have children. They seem to have made this decision, promise, pact, of sorts where they completely agree that children are not for them. Ever.
Why jump to such conclusions so quickly? Why the sudden decisiveness in this indecisive world when people normally can't even agree on where to have dinner? Isn't it sad when the only thing you can fully decide on without a single doubt is that you don't want to have kids?
And what if one party changes their mind? Would he or she have the courage to bring up the matter? What if BOTH parties change their mind but are stuck in this virtual silence, not wanting to cause a argument, somehow not knowing that the spouse has had a similar change of heart. Conclusion: it's a comic tragic tale that I suspect is being played out in two person households everywhere.
Who do we have children again? It's pure madness, pure genius, pure adventure, pure love - everything all rolled into one giant leap of faith, act of courage and promise to each other that wherever the road takes us, we'll figure it out. It's going on a journey into the unknown with your soul-mate knowing that together you'll overcome any hurdle. And then those big brown eyes stare back at you with love, adoration and full understanding that they depend on you for their whole world and only you can make it right, and make the bad things go away, because you are mummy and daddy.
At the end of the day, that's all you need. All that crying, sleepless nights, energy and time spent with them singing songs and reading and so on - it's all kids stuff (and you'll miss and yearn for that too).
Why jump to such conclusions so quickly? Why the sudden decisiveness in this indecisive world when people normally can't even agree on where to have dinner? Isn't it sad when the only thing you can fully decide on without a single doubt is that you don't want to have kids?
And what if one party changes their mind? Would he or she have the courage to bring up the matter? What if BOTH parties change their mind but are stuck in this virtual silence, not wanting to cause a argument, somehow not knowing that the spouse has had a similar change of heart. Conclusion: it's a comic tragic tale that I suspect is being played out in two person households everywhere.
Who do we have children again? It's pure madness, pure genius, pure adventure, pure love - everything all rolled into one giant leap of faith, act of courage and promise to each other that wherever the road takes us, we'll figure it out. It's going on a journey into the unknown with your soul-mate knowing that together you'll overcome any hurdle. And then those big brown eyes stare back at you with love, adoration and full understanding that they depend on you for their whole world and only you can make it right, and make the bad things go away, because you are mummy and daddy.
At the end of the day, that's all you need. All that crying, sleepless nights, energy and time spent with them singing songs and reading and so on - it's all kids stuff (and you'll miss and yearn for that too).