Taking love for granted
Some of the little things in life we do, we hardly think about. We tend to take them for granted thinking that these are the regular kinds of stuff that happens by default. However, I've been paying attention to others here and there and some of my observations are:
1. It's not common for husbands and wives to kiss each other goodbye when they part. The morning "goodbye kiss" when one heads out for work is a way of saying "I love you" and "will be thinking about you" during the working day.
2. Catch-up calls during the day just to say "how's things", "what have the kids been up to". Does everyone do this? Would you consider this a waste of airtime?
3. Parents paying full attention to their children and spending time and energy talking to them like regular people - instead of just shrugging them off, ignoring them, or telling them to keep quiet. Have you seen children running amok while their parents stand around blank-faced or are busy on the SMS?
4. Lively, loud, ridiculous and nonsensical family conversations around mealtimes? Do topics always have to be serious and boring? Let's talk rubbish and add some spice to the food.
5. The ability to actually have a business-like discussion without resorting to sarcasm, off-topic comments or stone-walling. Trying to find a compromise on things can often escalate to heated arguments. I'm not sure if this is correct, but it might be good to take a step back and put yourself in a business-sort of environment in order to find a common ground. After all, you don't really many get heated exchanges at work (do you?).
Point is, we should treasure the good habits and culture that we have and work on improving the bad ones. As Morrie said, "Love each other, or perish".
1. It's not common for husbands and wives to kiss each other goodbye when they part. The morning "goodbye kiss" when one heads out for work is a way of saying "I love you" and "will be thinking about you" during the working day.
2. Catch-up calls during the day just to say "how's things", "what have the kids been up to". Does everyone do this? Would you consider this a waste of airtime?
3. Parents paying full attention to their children and spending time and energy talking to them like regular people - instead of just shrugging them off, ignoring them, or telling them to keep quiet. Have you seen children running amok while their parents stand around blank-faced or are busy on the SMS?
4. Lively, loud, ridiculous and nonsensical family conversations around mealtimes? Do topics always have to be serious and boring? Let's talk rubbish and add some spice to the food.
5. The ability to actually have a business-like discussion without resorting to sarcasm, off-topic comments or stone-walling. Trying to find a compromise on things can often escalate to heated arguments. I'm not sure if this is correct, but it might be good to take a step back and put yourself in a business-sort of environment in order to find a common ground. After all, you don't really many get heated exchanges at work (do you?).
Point is, we should treasure the good habits and culture that we have and work on improving the bad ones. As Morrie said, "Love each other, or perish".